Co-Parenting During the Covid-19 Pandemic

I’m sure that I am not the only person stuck in pandemic co-parenting! Under normal circumstances, co-parenting is a challenge undertaken by divorced parents who take on the care and wellness of children for whom they share responsibility by working together. The goal is all about preserving and building essential relationships. It is not easy! It requires a huge amount of patience, flexibility, and cooperation.

So what is best for a child in a pandemic in regards to custody, changing houses, safety, and changing plans?

Here are some things to think about:

1. Stay at Home!

But which home?

It might be time to loosen up your strict shared custody schedule. Moving the kids between two houses exposes them to more germs and more people. And, can result in both parents and all the kids getting exposed or infected. Ideally, the children would stay in the same house and only the residents of that house would be allowed into that house.

If you live in the same city, consider making an alternative custody plan. Maybe 14-21 days at Dad’s house. If everyone stays home and remains well, move kids to mom’s house for 14-21 days if that is practical. Consult your pediatrician for the exact, up to date information about quarantine restrictions and advice.

2. Adjust

If you decide to adjust physical custody, make plans to include the non-custodial parent. Use FaceTime, Skype, Zoom, texts, and calls to keep checked in. During communication, let the kids know this is a temporary situation. Provide extra listening and emotional support!

3. Support

If you are the parent that does not have physical custody at this time, consider adjusting your financial support. When kids are home for three meals a day and snacks- they eat a lot more food! The grocery bills are skyrocketing at my house. I have two teen boys. If you can contribute extra funds to support your children, your co-parent will be very grateful.